Love

[Rabbi]

@rashed

I mean you just have to be with a lot of girls to get desensitized for the attachion to a random girl. Its not optimal to feel love for every girl. You just have to be not needy, but that comes from not taking the girls seriously, just thinking they are funny cute people with long hair.

I took this photo just 2 hours ago when 2 random girls came to talk to me when i was chilling at 2am on the city alone and then i made out with the better looking girl 15 mins later inside some random historical phone booth . Yeah and we made out for 30 mins and I never even asked for her number or anything. And thats the key, I was not needy at any point.

But the thing is if the girl really likes you she will ASK for YOUR number. And thats true love, because both people like each other TRULY, not just because its fun to do shit like this.

And remember NEVER take a girl seriously, its always for fun. Imagine you are in a playground with her.

[rashed]

Thanks man I’ll try it out I’ll take a different approach to girls

[ela]

@Rabbi I feel like this mindset isn’t that great, wouldnt it be better for someone to just learn to respect themselves enough to not fall in love with every other girl than to see every girl as something to just have fun with?

[Rabbi]

@ela I mean obviously the girl needs to be good looking naturally. I have rejected girls also.

[love]

@ela I agree

[ela]

@Rabbi Don’t you think seeing women you deem attractive as nothing more than something for fun (rather than a genuine connection) is damaging - not only for the woman involved but also for yourself?

[A Former User]

@rashed the crying over anything "ick" is normal. That just means that you want someone that deals with their problems without crying. You don't fall in love with these good looking girls, you just get really attracted to them and you want to feel wanted. Try to have more friends, jerk off whenever you're horny or just go shooting your shots at the girls you find attractive. Life is meant to be lived

[Rabbi]

@ela Yeah I get huge cortisol spike for 2-3 days after. But after that I am okay.

I try to be as present as possible for the connection in the moment.

I get bored of the same girl pretty fast so I cant go for too long. Its just how I am. Also I often block the girl just because I feel like it in the random moment. Idk I have low empathy.

There is always something limiting the long-term relationship, maybe I will get there one day but now I dont desire it.

[ela]

@Rabbi I suppose each person views connections and relationships differently

[rashed]

@ela hey to be clear I know deep down or when I think of them that I know I don’t truly love them but I just get attracted really easily

[raw_sunscreen]

You fall inlove too much then thats a bad sign of high hormonal feelings